Dominate

Dominate...to overwhelm.  To be larger than life such that all else pales, nay shrinks, in comparison.  The way our Sun dominates our solar system.  Looking at the planets themselves, is a truly massive undertaking.  Think of it,  rocks are small, boulders are big, mountains are massive, continents enormous, they all join together to make a planet that is in and of itself everything to so many.  Yet it is but a mere speck in comparison to the overwhelming presence of the sun.  The sun, that if not kept in check by the forces of the universe, would burn so intensely as to consume all in its path,  or at least near proximity.  But then again is there anything more humble than the sun.  Never wanting, always giving, providing for so many with no expectation of return.

Dominate.....to exert force of will.  This is almost never well received as force of body, yet mind.  Let's take the all too common "Get on you knees slut" approach into consideration.  Not to say that it doesn't have it place.  But is far to often used without a CHECK in place.  This can be quite effective, but only if proper binding is in place.  That is it only works if the sub is wanting of moving to the next step, submission.  If not it leads to issues.  Issues of questions like "Why should I?"

In my experience,  some of the most dominate forces, should I say personality's that I have encountered have been the most humble.  Those who lead by example and expect no one to follow,  but are welcoming and helpful of all that do.  People that do not have to utter a word to fill the room with their overwhelming presence.  People that can put you in you place with a simple LOOK.  Yet with a smile make YOU feel larger than life.  And that is, for me, what ttwd is all about.  EMPOWERMENT.  Through being strong, you gain the luxury to be week;  through complete submission you may gain the exhilaration of being truly powerful.

In the presence of a true dominating force, there is one thing and one thing only TRUTH.  For this overwhelming force can see instantly through the haze of bullshit we all create around ourselves.  This leads to a sense of need.... Need to be completely honest and forthcoming.  After all we all want to make pretty the truth,  but none want to get caught in the shame of a lie.  And the wost lies of all are the ones we tell ourselves.